One Game Dad 31: Setting Boundaries
Everything has its limits. Those limits are surprisingly freeing, except when it comes to setting them for children.
Boundaries are why I don't do work after a certain period. They're also why I don't take my phone into the bedroom. They're something I try to have when I write or create a game. Namely because limiting the scope and scale is a good exercise and one that aids in actually producing something. It's why my podcasts are the way they are - I don't want to make them too much work.
Getting those boundaries up for my kid is different. For one I don't want to discourage her. Two, she's just so fast, inquisitive and demanding. Three, I hate saying no all the time. So I'll let her draw until she tries to eat the crayons too much or wants to use them on something other than paper. A couple of our rugs have been tagged before I could get there.
But with other things it doesn't seem worth the effort, nor necessarily a good idea to set boundaries on. Beyond bed and meal times that is. Fighting with someone who's 15 months old is an exercise in futility and one I don't have the energy for. That's not to say I capitulate at everything. She doesn't come home with a new toy every day nor does she eat nothing but cookies. She does eat an awful lot of yogurt though.
Her tastes are changing. A lot of things are changing. She's learning new words every day. Becoming more mobile and I believe either left-handed or ambidextrous. As far as food goes she's definitely in a mood where she wants to feed herself. Which is quite relaxing, other than the clean up afterwords. But getting into a fit over it isn't worth it. Every time she spoons something into her mouth, rather than me, she's improving her fine motor skills. So I let it happen.
Can't say that my fine motor skills were shown on the latest stream. This week I played around in the Far Cry 5 map editor. As usual you can find this episode on Twitch, Youtube, Stitcher, iHeartRadio and iTunes. This podcast is hosted by the Third Culture Kids network.