One Game Dad 10: Cultural Tutorial Segments
Life is like a video game, there's a lot to learn just to get on in the world.
But that doesn't mean what you're learning is right. Take gender for example. Gender brings with it a lot of baggage, preconceptions, expectations and limits. So why do we so quickly immerse our children into this quagmire?
It's a question both the Wife and I have been asking ourselves, even as we gender our child. We're using gendered pronouns in English and Swedish when both languages offer non-gendered options - they and hen respectively. Yet we continue to call our child our daughter as she physically presents as such. But that's not to say it's how she identifies.
She has no identity to speak of. She's ten months old and while she may be cognizant of some physical differences between men and women she hasn't really internalized any of that and what her place may be. So if we want a better world, one that moves beyond its current issues with gender and is more accepting of people wherever they fall on the spectrum of gender why are we gendering our own child?